creating relations – shaping relatives!

trans_x_ing names for kinship terms and social relations


do you know a situation like this: you are talking to some friendx about your last visit to your sister and her kids: it was really bad, how your sister on an excursion with others called you ‚my brother‘ and the kids addressed you with ‚auntie‘. you are not ‚sister‘ or ‚brother‘ or ‚aunt‘ or ‚uncle‘. you do not want to become a mother or a father, but  ———  and then there is this void feeling, no words. do you know a situation like this?

we want to change that! we want to collect new, daring forms as well as forms already tried and used; we want to discuss them with you and share them with all of us. we really really would love to find and speak out words which are simple to say and/or easy to spell and write, words trans_x_ing people can identify with, do not feel strange with and uncool in using them or terms which are fun and make you being present here and now!

to start, we have formulated a couple of sentences you could use to fill in and try out new terms.  feel free to take whatever sentence you like to formulate and write your ideas and terms you would like to share

i am not sister or brother, i am ________________


i am not daughter or son, but i am  _________________


i am not mum, ma, mother, father, dad, i am _________________


i am not aunt or uncle, but i am  __________________


not niece, nephew, cousin, but __________________


are there any other important forms you would like to share? share them with us, try them out and send your ideas and wishes to

we put them on our website, as inspirations for us and others, to start and continue discussions, to try them out, to change them anew, for trans_xing living realities to be here and there. yeah!

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is living

and noticing_sharing

acting, again – anew and again – differently and again


language is

hegemonic and violent

injuring me

forcing people into discriminatory self-categorizations and denaming their privileges

(for me: forcing me into binary genderings and denaming my white and ableist privileges)

again and again


language is

at the same time also

a possibility

finding expressions

trying to mediate, to connect




language is always acting

if i speak or dont speak

if i remain silent and turn around

if i join the laughter or nod my head

when i drown others with my words

when privileged people assign discriminated people aggressions and thus distract from their own discriminatory and yet denamed aggressions

and continue not listening when discriminated people ask and demand that certain expressions are not being used

when privileged people do not want to listen when discriminated people speak

when i do not interrupt or disturb when discriminatory things are being said

when i interrupt when hearing things confusing me, being unfamiliar to me


all these are linguistic actions

trying to speak, listen and write and read less discriminatory

again and again

through new words like x-forms, trans_x_ing styles: expressing actings and not identities

through asterisks, @-forms, new namings, careful and caring addressings of me and others

all attempts to dissolute universalizing „we’s“

everything not yet said or written which is challenging binary genderings and which is explicitly expressing interdependent localizations and critical positionings

every decision of listening to, citing or authorizing discriminated voices

and all open questions


language is living



always in motion

always challenging and


to challenge